Showing posts with label Parents. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Parents. Show all posts

Monday, January 19, 2009

Outsourced Parenthood


Parenting is the one of the toughest jobs in the world. The hi-tech jobs of parents give less time to spend with their children. This gets complicated when both mother and father are working in indefinite work schedules. Impact of working parents on their children has been captured academically well. Divorce and family violence are increasing due to both parents working and failing to manage their children. There are many children whose both parents are away from home for many months. Those parents employed in the armed forces come home once in six months. Children of these parents are put in enormous emotional strain.

The United States has discovered a new method through internet. In its latest technological blitzkrieg, USA has unveiled virtual parenting to protect the children of its soldiers. The Department of Defense is inviting computer program which can entertain soldier’s children in the absence of their parents. When the parents are engaged in battle or off the telephone contacts, the defense departments expect the children to be engaged through virtual parents. There are 1,55,000 USA soldiers employed in Afghanistan and in Iraq who got their kids back home.

It says “the stresses of deployment might be softened if spouses and especially children could conduct simple conversations with their loved ones in immediate time of stress or prolonged absence”.

The proposed method would like to have a video footage of the real parents supplemented by artificial intelligence. They are also planning to put a three dimensional simulation. This is expected to strike a conversation with lonely children of soldiers and offer them emotional support. This Artificial Intelligence (AI) program is trying to hook children of three to five years. Even the officers are pessimistic about such a venture. “This is a technologically challenging application because it relies on the ability to have convincing voice recognition, artificial intelligence, and the ability to easily and inexpensively develop a customized application tailored to a specific parent.”

As in other cases this technological solution will prove to be temporary. Real parenting cannot be substituted by any other means. A careful parenting is necessary for the successful upbringing of a child. Any compromise on the care provided will be backfiring on parents. They need to make a choice firmly before entering parenthood. Either they can care their children or care their own pleasures. All time personal pleasure, job chasing or material accomplishments will confuse everything. At the end parents will land up in big trouble. There is no case where careless parenting had taken child to the real height. Most of the troubled childhood due to careless parenting has ended up in social destruction. Children who come from disturbed parenting are prone to violence and other anti-social activities. They involve in drug addiction, alcoholism, smoking and other health destructive activities apart from being social nuisance. It is high time for parents to make a choice. Virtual parenthood is a stop-gap solution with no positive impact on suffering children.

Monday, January 12, 2009

Parents in Social Networking Sites


Social networking sites are the best places to spot children’s activities. Whether their romance or bad personal habits. Parents are keen to get into these sites to trap their children’s lives. Some of them join due to their peer pressure or sheer excitement which is common in the current global society. Facebook, orkut, myspace, ringo and other social networking sites are increasing. Adding to this list is the professional networking sites like Linkedin. In the flood of networking sites parents choose the ones where they can keep track of their children’s activities. Knowing well the consequences of helicopter parenting in their networking sites, children refuse to entertain parent’s friendship request. Apart from the fear of getting trapped by parents in the networking sites, children are also reluctant parents to mingle without age differences.

Dishant Kapur (16 years male) a student of Delhi Public School says “It is embarrassing for me to have my mother in facebook where I abuse my friends with dirty words. Everything is written on the wall and news fed to all others in my list. That is why I did not accept my mother’s friend request to me”.

Lovelita (19 years female) a final year student of Mumbai Sophia College says “My boyfriend and I flirt freely in facebook. Keeping my parents there is dangerous and unnecessarily it creates more panic among them. I totally discouraged them to open their accounts in the networking site. I advised them to become members of Linkdin which is professional one and more helpful to them”.

Facebook is the present network mania among the Net users of all age groups. It defeated Orkut the mother of all social networking sites on the account of privacy provided. Orkut used to be free for all site. There was no privacy for people while scrapping and photo displaying. Using this one great complaint, Facebook had defeated orkut. Facebook made privacy as its USP. One cannot write on the other’s wall without the owner’s prior permission.

Photos can be viewed only by the user’s selected friends. Even the profile cannot appear in the search if the user desires so. These privacy issues put facebook on the top of the networking sites. Along with the privacy facebook also provided hundreds of programmes which can test the users skills and rate them according to their performance. These ratings are news feed to other friends which pulled them into the game. This kind of game infection hooked many users into facebook.

The privacy issue and multiple applications like book review, movie review, and food review created a huge popularity across all age groups. In the final count facebook outsmarted all other networking sites. To pay heavily for its largest number of members Facebook service has gone dead slow.

Parents have different stories to tell. Mahima Dutt (43 years, female) of Kolkata says “Social networking sites are for all. Although I started late to surf and chat it is a great outlet to vent our anger. Many of my friends give me counseling when I lose my cool at home or at work. To be connected with them I use orkut. But my children hate to see me there”.

Social networking sites are equally beneficial and dangerous to the society at large. It can tilt to any side depending on the user wavelength. According to the study conducted by Public Action (2005) in eight Indian cities Internet has opened up the pandora’s box. With email and social networking sites people get involved more in extramarital affairs. Any small tension at home can immediately take the marital relations to end stage. Vinodhini (26 years female) married to a boy chosen by her parents. The newly wed couple was having tough time in temperamental adjustments. One day her husband slapped in anger. The next day she filed a divorce suit. Within six months she started her second marriage life with her college boyfriend. The networking site kept both them of connected after marriage. He asked to her divorce her husband and join him at USA”

Whether children or parents or newly married couple, social networking sites are both boon and bane. It creates a lot of suspicion and misunderstandings among family members. Children use code words and acronyms to alert their friends when they were using Net at home. Sample some of these acronyms

P9/11 – Parent alerts
PBM – Parent behind me
PIR – Parent in room
POS – parent over shoulder
NC coast not clear

The age-old dictum - Anything sincerely used will be proving to be beneficial’ holds totally true at this social networking age. There are hundreds of positive aspects associated with these social networking sites. If it is used for better purposes social networking sites cannot be beaten.